The Mysteriously Vanishing Second Date.

I knew it was coming… dating isn’t all hearts and butterflies and giggly conversation.  It can be down right annoying.  I’m doing my best to let go of control, but I don’t understand why men have such a hard time planning ahead.  Or is that a sign that the people I’m interested in dating just “aren’t that into me” and some men actually do plan ahead?  They say they want to go out again, they text the next day saying “let’s go out again,” but then they don’t make plans to actually go out again.  What gives, dudes?  This isn’t just a one-man phenomenon, it happens nearly every time for me with every single date.  I guess if it happens again and again, then it’s really time to look at my behavior.  Perhaps I’m sending off some kind of “I say I want to go out with you again but I really don’t so don’t bother asking” signal. 

Here is my sure-fire-swoon-worthy dating advice to men everywhere.  If you like a girl, plan a second date!!  Like actually plan one, with a time and a place and say “does that work for you?”  “Ok, great, I’ll see you there then,” and then the day before, “looking forward to seeing you tomorrow” and then the day of you can even say “(silly anecdote about your day) and I’m excited to tell you about it in a few hours.”  For real, tell me, please, someone tell me, am I asking too much?  Is this just not the way it works anymore?  Am I supposed to be ok with this now that I’m in my thirties?  But what if I want a man who looks at his calendar on Monday and says “Oh goody, I’m free on Thursday night and I would love to take that awesome gal out on a date to my favorite spot.  Let me call her now and see if she’s free.” 

As of right now, I’m disappointed with both News Guy and This Guy.  And The Midwesterner, well, haven’t heard a peep out of him since date one.  UGH.  This Dater's Tuesday night is for the birds!