About That Greener Grass...

This weekend was all about what happens in life after dating.  This Dater headed to Austin to celebrate a bunch of things with a bunch of friends – a baby shower for one good friend and a wedding for another good friend.  I have known both of these amazing women for a few years now and have seen them each go through ups and downs with relationships and life in general and, I have to say, it just feels nice to see the people you love so happy.  And these gals were happy gals.

In the past (eh-hem, even very recent past) a weekend like this would have been a swirl of “I’m so happy for them but I’m so sad for me and woe is me and when is it MY turn.”  But I am pleased to report that this one was more “I’m SO happy for them, and happy for me too because not only do I have them in my life as super awesome lady friends, I’ll get to share my celebratory life moments with them someday!”  It was sort of cool to realize that it’s ok to be happy for people and it’s also ok to admit that you want a little of what they have – and wanting things for your life doesn’t have to mean you are sad and mopey about where your life is now.    

I will admit to a little green grass thinking – maybe it’s time for a move to the suburbs, maybe it’s time to buy a grown up house, maybe it’s time for a kitchen table… but when I got home today to my studio apartment I realized I am right where I need to be.  I get to travel to see great friends.  I get to cuddle other people’s babies and give them back when they start to cry.  I get to flirt at weddings and go home when I get tired.  I get to sleep sideways in my bed because there is no one else hogging it.  I get to do all of these things because right now I’m single.  And while I don’t want to be single forever, for right now it’s just fine.